No Expectations

No Expectations

As I write this I’m sitting in my basement with my sister-in-law.  She, her husband (Mark’s brother) and their two kids arrived for a week and two days.  When I was making my schedule with clients for work this week, some people joked “Do you want to be at home more or less?”.

I get it – sometimes when people come to visit, it can feel like an intrusion.  Our space has been invaded.  They are using our stuff.  We may have to act differently, eat differently, we can’t walk around naked while flossing.  Not that I do that!  Or you don’t want your mother-in-law to find your chocolate stash.  Because then there would be words.  Followed by a fight.  And maybe some maiming.  Maybe.

I’m not finding that this visit is stressing me out.  In fact, I’m really enjoying every second of it.  I love seeing Mark laughing with his brother, teaching his nephews cool Army stuff and gearing up to take them fossil hunting at Chesapeake Beach.

I’m having some really cool and amazing conversations with my sister-in-law and we are all reminiscing and laughing about college days and old friends as we all went to school together.  We all met in college and we have belly laughed over so many memories.

I feel relaxed in my own home, as it should be.  And they have paid us the ultimate compliment, that they are relaxed in our home.  Which is what I strive for.  I want everyone who walks through my door to feel welcome, at ease and love.  To hear laughter.  To have a good time.

I don’t really have too much of a point, except that I went into this week with no expectations.  None.  And because of that, I think that things are really just happening in an organic and positive way.  And I feel that my relationships with these family members will be better  because of this. I’ve never been too close with my sister and brother-in-law and I’m already feeling that change.

I don’t want any more years to go by where the only time we see or talk to each other is because of a holiday or birthday.  It’s been too long already.  And I’m really enjoying this time.

See you in class and the studio!

Image:  Alan Light
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Kelly Bojan

About Kelly Bojan

Kelly has been involved in the fitness industry for over 15 years. An interest in teaching classes in the 90's became a passion for all aspects of the industry. In addition to being an A.C.E. certified personal trainer and Power Pilates instructor, Kelly has managed several small chain and privately owned clubs. In the past eight years, she was the fitness and program director at a privately owned club. Kelly is the Assistant Program Director at Evolutions helping to generate ideas, quarterly challenges, assist with staff communication and auditing classes.

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